How to move towards unconditional self-love and divine relationships

We have already investigated the distinction between Neurotic Love (or Matrix Love) and Unconditional Love (Divine Love):

Unconditional love is something which is so far out of this world, so little known in our culture and in our lives, that it is really hard to only understand it through words. There literally are no specific words to express what unconditional love truly is! Hence, every attempt to define it is just an imprecise approximation. The question is how can we better understand what unconditional love truly is and start to implement it into our lives?

Well, that is easier said than done! I really thought that I had integrated the energy of unconditional love into my life through my past lessons, which were extremely painful yet led to enormous personal healing and growth. But it became painfully obvious, that I did not really internalize this distinction yet so the universe kicked me in the face again: The lady I am interested in got back together with her ex-boyfriend and did not step into my life as I expected. I felt devastated and confused. I really wondered, what did I get wrong?

This morning, I listened to the song “How He Loves” by Paul McClure:

We are His portion

And He is our prize

Drawn to redemption by the grace in His eyes

If His grace is an ocean, we’re all sinking

At the following part of the song, I broke down in tears having an intense realization:

So heaven meets earth like a sloppy wet kiss

And my heart turns violently inside of my chest

I don’t have time to maintain these regrets

When I think about the way that He loves us

Three lessons for reaching divine relationships

It suddenly all made sense! There are several lessons here:

1) Seeking love from God and not from other people
2) Overcoming childhood traumas
3) Focusing on the divine beauty and gratitude

1) Seeking love from God instead of people

Our culture taught us that we need to seek love and approval through our relationships (partners, friends, family). This is false and only leads to suffering as we attempt to “steal” each other’s energy through mutual control and manipulation.

The 4th insight of the Celestine Prophecy explains how we are unconsciously trying to suck off other people’s energy once we lost our divine connection. In romantic relationships, this often leads to a downward spiral of mutually suffocating each other energetically.

What is the alternative? Well, once we re-establish our divine connection through unconditional self-love, we have access to unlimited energy overflowing our being, as the 5th insight of the Celestine Prohecy explains:

2) Overcoming childhood traumas

Another thing we need to do to reach more self-love and better relationships is to overcome our past traumas, especially those from the childhood. Every triggering situation is a chance to meet with our hurt inner child and to overcome the past.

The first step to heal our inner child is to become aware of the trigger and of the negative emotions connected to the past trauma. We then need to resist the urge to distract ourselves (e.g. through addictions) and to just feel those emotions, embracing and accepting them.

Just feeling those negative emotions, giving them and our hurt inner child our loving attention, oftentimes is already enough to release them through tears and laughter. We instantly feel a sensation of liberation and lightness in our bodies.

Kyle Cease explains this perfectly. Once we faced and healed our childhood traumas, the mind also stops the negative protection and deflection patterns and we get a totally fresh and unburdened perspective on our lives:

The 6th insight of the Celestine Prophecy corroborates this point: The more we heal our past traumas, the easier we can maintain our divine connection to access higher energies. Our control and manipulation patterns will cease:

3) Focusing on the divine beauty and gratitude

After we healed our past, we can see the world through a more neutral lens and we are more open to receive a constant flow of opportunities in our lives. To augment this process, we can focus on the beauty of the world and other people as well as on gratitude.

The 8th insight of the Celestine Prophecy highlights the fact that we should not lose our divine connection in romantic relationships by becoming addicted to another person. In this case, we would attempt to extract energy from the partner instead of our higher selves:

Once we have implemented those lessons through discipline and determination in our lives and are able to continuously maintain our connection, we can freely give others our energy. If done so in groups, this can lead to a powerful upward spiral of mutual upliftment:

Conclusion

Again, I was taught an immensely valuable lesson through suffering: Other people cannot fill our lack of self-love and make us whole. Every relationship built on this foundation will only create another vicious cycle of suffering and despair.

To truly reach divine relationships, we need to reconnect to the infinite love of God by loving ourselves unconditionally, overcoming our childhood traumas through revisiting and feeling them and focusing on beauty and practicing gratitude on a daily basis.